We all do it. We think about a situation that did not turn out the way we wanted it to and start dwelling on “If Only” negative thinking. “If only I had left 15 minutes earlier, I wouldn’t be stuck in this traffic.” “If only I had not caught this virus. I should have been more careful or avoided going there.” “If only my spouse would listen to me better. Then we wouldn’t fight.”
Dwelling on “If Only’s” does not change our current circumstance. Our negative thinking only drags us down and causes us to live in the past. You can’t move forward when your mind is stuck on what happened last.