I was divorced several years ago when my three girls were 4, 7, and 9 years old. As difficult as the situation was, we pulled together and became a stronger family unit despite the trial. Divorce is a terrible thing to go through for the whole family, but one that can give you an opportunity to teach your children how to deal with painful, life changing situations. Here’s some tips on how we made it through this time together. Remember, this does not have to define you or your kids. You can get through this!
1. Do not talk badly about their other parent to them or around them. Not even if you think they are in the other room and won’t hear you. Kids have a way of sneaking up on you and overhearing things without you realizing it. They should not hear bad things about their other parent because they define themselves as an extension of both of their parents. Also, they need to feel free to love both of their parents, not that they have to pick sides.
2. Be a good listener and let your kids vent their hurt, frustrations and sadness to you. Try not to get defensive and don’t blame the other parent. Acknowledge their feelings and let them know they can trust you and you won’t get angry when they tell you how they really feel.